It is not every day when you get to remember what your father is going through to raise you as a better version of himself unless it is father’s day.
We write emotional captions on Facebook, upload cute photos with him and keep thinking it will wow him because the overwhelming response you are getting from your friends is wowing you.
But this probably doesn’t work well on Bengali Dads. Because you can’t convince him into thinking that a touchy caption on Facebook is a good enough reason to be happy on this day.
Bengali dads have high expectations, remind you that.
Ditch Social Media for a day and cook something for him with effort
Let’s face it when we are uploading cute pictures with him and writing captions for him which are ultimately read by our friends only and not our dads. We only care about how nicely we put our thoughts into words and how much validation we are getting even though our lives are falling apart here.
But if you really want this day to be only about your father, ditch social media and cook something for him. Let him get assurance that you are not entirely useless. That you can make things happen if you actually want to other than fixing the wifi router and occasionally, his android phone.
Buy him something nice and cute that has functional attributes
Our dads are probably never buying a new pair of shoes and a new watch for themselves even though he will buy you 3 pair of shoes and 4 sets of new clothes just because you can flex on social media. Dads will not buy their essentials and still be okay with it because dads are absolute sweethearts and all things nice.
We often overlook his needs and hardly care about if his supplies are in an inadequate amount in the house.
On this father’s day, look around for your father’s stuff.
Surprise him with it, he will probably love the gifts but I’m sure enough that he will probably feel good knowing you’ve taken the time to care about his necessities and cared to buy them with effort.
Just spend some good time with him
I know that many of us don’t get the time to sit and talk with him even for a while. We always prefer our busyness over his and we feel that it is okay for us to fall asleep because we’re tired whenever he’s home late. Ditch work for a day maybe, take him out for coffee. Or just spend some quality time with him. Talk about how he’s doing and what things he is worried about currently if he looks worried.
Sync yourself to his energy.
Show him what you wrote in the captions, on a piece of paper
A lot of our Dads don’t actually get the whole social media culture and don’t like being on facebook for various reasons.
But they do secretly kind of dig the whole letter or card thing if their child makes it with love and effort. Don’t just post pictures with him on social media and write a caption and expect heart reacts because it’s nice.
The day is all about your father. So instead, write it all on a piece of paper and give it to him on this day. I’m pretty sure he’ll be happier to discover his child’s creativity and choice of words that deserve a thousand heart reacts.
Promise to yourself that you’ll actually work on being a better child
This one is more of a continuous process with a long-lasting impact on fathers. Our fathers don’t want anything else but their children to be better and stand up to his expectations in every choice we make in life.
Father’s day is just one day but it should leave an impact on all of us regarding how we should appreciate our fathers’ efforts to run the family and ensure a better future for us.
So let us make better choices, better ourselves for our fathers and their expectations from us. We often tend to forget that as we’re growing up, our parents are getting old so they deserve love, care and support from us a bit more with every passing day.