Patriarchy, misogyny and sexism. Words like these are talked about, detested and discussed nowadays as a welcome change in our day to day dialogues.
Even then, people talking the most about these forget to actually evidently ‘practice’ the hatred towards these words. We somewhat subconsciously associate some skills with the prowess a specific gender is meant to have.
But often, these are just basic survival skills everyone should learn.
What were once parallel streams for men and women are now converging. As millennials stumble, claw, or sail their way into adulthood, the lists of gender-specific skills every man (or woman) should know are giving way to something new — a unisex form of adulting.
This is an interesting skill to have. Cooking is considered an art and anybody who masters cooking can master the way to get into someone’s heart. In our culture, cooking is commonly associated with the act of the women and men who know how to cook in our society are considered ‘extraordinary’.
In reality, it is somewhere in the middle of a preference and a survival skill. A ‘must-know’ if you’re anyone above the age of twenty. Because men, you can’t always expect to be handed a sandwich while staring at the TV for no good reason. And women, the same goes for you. Knowing how to cook makes life easier, instantly.
Paperwork (Paying taxes, official work, banking, money management)
This task here rather contains a vast area of real-life scenarios. If you come from a Bengali family, you’d have seen dads handling taxations, bank papers or any legal paperwork for that matter whereas our mothers were never really into it.
But in reality, every adult regardless of their gender should at least understand how these intricacies work. For example, if you decide to open a bank account for your savings and don’t know how banks work because you were never taught about it just because you are a girl is a glaring example of how our society has characterized tasks based on gender.
Learn how tax slabs work, to handle money, the basics of legal paperwork etc. They will always come in handy whenever you’re past the age of twenty, doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman.
Even though the social concept of women-only chores is changing with time but many still hold a perception that household chores are best done by the women of the house.
Cleaning your own mess should be what we’re taught instead. A guy can know how to clean, wash the dishes, help his wife get things done and still be the manliest man. A girl can know how to clean and wash and still be a corporate leader.
Men in our society aren’t as much exposed to self-care as our women are. To girls, self-care looks like looking after our physical and mental health.
But to the boys, it is rather a vague concept in our society since it is so feminized in our country. The part of self-care that includes looking after your skin, your external appearance, your hair- is so feminized in our country that boys don’t even understand the necessity of taking care of their skin, feet, hands and hair.
Self-care doesn’t understand gender. It is only concerned with the body you go through so much with. Learn to take care of yourself. Cut that cucumber into circles and bust all that stress under your eyes.
Driving is a life-saving skill, both at home and abroad that could save you a lot of time, energy and dependency. The steering doesn’t have a brain and so the car operates better with whoever decides to become a safe driver. Don’t give in to the stereotypes, learn to drive safely.