According to a lot of people, yes it is. And that is completely understandable. Why wouldn’t you think this way? You are left to believe your entire career depends on your result in these board exams. That one bad grade might potentially make or break you. It is scary. And your biggest fear turns in to reality when you don’t get your expected GPA.
Is it the end of the world though?
But as cliché as it may sound, that doesn’t mean you lose. A bad grade in one board exam does not have the ability to define you, or how your life and career will turn out. You might hear otherwise, but really the best thing to do when coping with a downfall is to get back up and keep working hard.
How do you define a bad result? Well, conventionally, anything below a GPA 5.00 is considered not great. But some things most of us do not consider are the factors that might affect it other than the students’ apparent shortcoming. Your result may have been published wrong or simply went to a rather strict teacher who narrowed down to one right answer, something most questions in the creative system is not limited to.
What you need to realise is that the grading system of these exams is not a standard of your merit.
Why do we fall? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up
Board exams are a huge turning point in everyone’s life, but the importance of it in the long run is trivial. If anything, it is the most valuable point in your life because of the lessons that come with that phase. Call it philosophical but JSC/SSC/HSC and everything after plays a bigger role is teaching you time management, punctuality, multi-tasking ,and most important of all, learning to get back up after failure.
So, something that might help you a lot when trying to cope with your result is to be realistic. It is not the end of the world.
If anything, it’s a step closer to the start.
Take your time and then go get it
Does this take care of your emotions though? When getting an unexpected outcome, it has a toll on our mental health as well. And as much as it might seem easy to just forget it ever happened and move on, it’s not. Because mental health is a complex issue, not everyone can cope the same way. Sometimes your family may not be as supportive, and sometimes even with supportive parents it is hard to not feel bad.
In this case, the best thing you can do is sulk. Yes, you saw it right. If you need a day or two to do nothing but cry, or be on YouTube, then do it. If you want to sleep your way through it, then do it. Whatever it is, take time off and do nothing but feel whatever you are feeling. Avoid time around your friends, family and the pasher bashar aunty whose daughter got a 5.00 with a 90% in every subject for the time being.
It might not make you feel better right away, but it is definitely a start.