5 things you should know before chasing the ‘University Life’

From middle school till high school we get to hear one common phrase from our elders. “Study now, in order to ‘chill’ when you head for University”.

The idea of becoming ‘free’ from multiple disciplinary academics is such a fantasy to all ‘to-be’ freshmen that they believe the prank that society plays on them. Most of us have faced the harsh reality, and have our ways of coping with it. But for those who haven’t applied for University or will be heading for it, here are the things you should know before you dwell into a journey of ‘adulthood’.

1. The Battle to get into a Public University

Right after you finish A levels or HSC, comes the most difficult competition of it all. It often leads to a nationwide swirl every year over the opportunity to get admitted to a public university. While it is an amazing opportunity that you earn for yourself, it is also important to realize that not getting into one, does not necessarily mean that you do not have it in you to be a smart student.

Public universities are not golden gooses and it certainly isn’t the end of the road.

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There are multiple Universities all across the country which offers you a certificate and scholarships you deserve. So, try not to break down, because you need to save up some energy to deal with quite a lot of adult problems ahead.

2. Choose your major wisely

By now, you should know what you love to do, and even if you don’t, that is also okay. However, try to choose a major or a department you want to genuinely study in and want to enjoy learning.

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If you want to study engineering, good on you. But if you want to be a writer or an anthropologist and you end up taking Computer Science and Engineering because you are too afraid of what your relatives might say of you, do understand this, none of them will help you out at 3 am in the morning to finish your assignment which will be due in the next six hours. You deserve the best in the world and you have to learn to fight for it.

3. You need to be present

Whether it is an orientation or a discussion which helps you with understanding the curriculum of your University or your department in details, you need to be there. Once you do get acquainted with everything, right after your classes start, it might be tempting to miss classes since you have been such a goody two shoes all your school life.

You might think you ‘owe it to yourself’ but understand your priority first, then the luxury, my friend. Regular attendance in your classes will not only help you keep in track with quizzes and lectures but you might also be a friendly face to your professor which will help you in the long run. The idea of getting a good grade in your courses is to be present, no matter what!

4. There is nothing called ‘chill time’ in your prime time

Sadly, the idea of having the most independent and free time when you are studying in a University is a lie that parents feed us so that we study more when it is easy to control us.

Of course, when you are in a University, you get to meet new people, hang out more, take time for finding your passion for something you were always interested in such as a part-time job, travel with your friends etc.

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But it all becomes difficult to handle when you try to adjust all this while you are trying to graduate. This leads up to late night study hours, overeating, anxiety and that is where you really need to unleash the energy we told you to hold onto.

It might be tricky, but it’s not impossible to experience the best of everything with little time management hacks. All in all, enjoy your time but do not let yourself drift away.

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5. Treat yourself!

While you go through the freshmen, sophomore and senior phases of the years you are in the University, you will realize that not all friendships last, not everyone you like will love you back, that society has constructions you wish you knew before, that there are these crowds who call themselves “boro bhais” and they are of no use to you and that is okay.

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With all the hardships you may think you have to face, there is also a beam of light which will get you through it all. You need to sleep well, eat healthy, make healthy relationships with people and they do not have to be a handful. Most importantly treat yourself after every accomplishment or failure you may face in life because before anyone else you need to learn to love yourself.

Here’s to figuring out adulthood and much more!

A “bad” result in SSC is not the end of your world. Here’s why

According to a lot of people, yes it is. And that is completely understandable. Why wouldn’t you think this way? You are left to believe your entire career depends on your result in these board exams. That one bad grade might potentially make or break you. It is scary. And your biggest fear turns in to reality when you don’t get your expected GPA.

Is it the end of the world though?

But as cliché as it may sound, that doesn’t mean you lose. A bad grade in one board exam does not have the ability to define you, or how your life and career will turn out. You might hear otherwise, but really the best thing to do when coping with a downfall is to get back up and keep working hard.

How do you define a bad result? Well, conventionally, anything below a GPA 5.00 is considered not great. But some things most of us do not consider are the factors that might affect it other than the students’ apparent shortcoming. Your result may have been published wrong or simply went to a rather strict teacher who narrowed down to one right answer, something most questions in the creative system is not limited to.

What you need to realise is that the grading system of these exams is not a standard of your merit.

A 3-hour long test cannot measure the depth of your years-long education. So, don’t be too hard o yourself. What might help you cope with your “bad result” is facing this truth.

Why do we fall? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up

Board exams are a huge turning point in everyone’s life, but the importance of it in the long run is trivial. If anything, it is the most valuable point in your life because of the lessons that come with that phase. Call it philosophical but JSC/SSC/HSC and everything after plays a bigger role is teaching you time management, punctuality, multi-tasking ,and most important of all, learning to get back up after failure.

So, something that might help you a lot when trying to cope with your result is to be realistic. It is not the end of the world.

If anything, it’s a step closer to the start.

However, this exam does give you the chance to look for any flaw there might be in your study routine, time schedules and daily routine in general. It might also be an indication that maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself. Things get much easier when we think more realistically and less emotionally.

Take your time and then go get it

Does this take care of your emotions though? When getting an unexpected outcome, it has a toll on our mental health as well. And as much as it might seem easy to just forget it ever happened and move on, it’s not. Because mental health is a complex issue, not everyone can cope the same way. Sometimes your family may not be as supportive, and sometimes even with supportive parents it is hard to not feel bad.

In this case, the best thing you can do is sulk. Yes, you saw it right. If you need a day or two to do nothing but cry, or be on YouTube, then do it. If you want to sleep your way through it, then do it. Whatever it is, take time off and do nothing but feel whatever you are feeling. Avoid time around your friends, family and the pasher bashar aunty whose daughter got a 5.00 with a 90% in every subject for the time being.

It might not make you feel better right away, but it is definitely a start.